My mother whom I love dearly has continually revised my life story within the context of a complicated family history that includes more than the usual share of divorce step-children dysfunction and obfuscation. I've spent most of my adult life attempting to deconstruct that history and separate fact from fiction.

I'm talking to you and it's basically a direct communication whereas if I'm writing a letter to you and you read the letter there are like 12 extra deconstruction and reconstruction steps in the communication.