A man's ability to haggle is never a turn-on. The only thing less romantic than how much you paid is how much you saved. The last thing we want to hear is how you talked the jeweler down on our new earrings.

I really like to look like a history book. I can look 1940s I can look 1970s hippie-chic or sometimes I'll pull that '80s Brooklyn hip-hop kid with the door-knocker earrings.

If there is a gay uniform the differences are in how each man coordinates the details: the brand and cut of the jeans the design of belts and boots the haircut the number and size of earrings.

Throughout the years many Christian women have told me of their great respect for the bravery and courage evident in my work perhaps even gesturing to their own Isis earrings or a Nile River Goddess pendants.

In Hollywood today it's cool for guys to wear nail polish and earrings in their lips and tongues. I don't get it.